Services are finished and you’re on your way home. Maybe you had a great Sunday where everything clicked. Maybe it was a rough Sunday where everything seemed to fall flat. Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle. Whatever the case, it’s Sunday afternoon and you’re pretty tired. Where does your mind turn?
Depending on the Sunday, you might be tempted to discouragement, or pride, or envy, or frustration. I know that, for me, I’m often tempted to replay in my head things I did well over and over, or obsess over things I could have done better.
Every worship leader, after pouring themselves into a service with several days (if not weeks) of planning and rehearsing, struggles with the post-service let-down. Here are some things I’ve found helpful to keep in mind when I’m driving home on Sunday afternoon:
I am very small. God is very big.
Hebrews 1:3 says that Jesus “upholds the universe by the word of his power”. So don’t get caught up in yourself. The world revolves around Jesus, not you or your church.
God sees different things than I see
Maybe I’m discouraged because people didn’t “look engaged”. Keep in mind that “…the Lord sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the Lord looks on the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7.
The things that frustrate you are good for you
Your drummer can’t keep a beat, your pastor doesn’t sing along, your lyrics operator pulled up last week’s file and didn’t realize until halfway through the second song, no one sang along, your guitar string broke again, etc., etc.
All of these things will make you a better worship leader. “Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness.” James 1:2-3.
The church needs more worship leaders who will be joyfully “steadfast” in serving their congregations and worship teams.
A week from now you’ll get another chance
If God is “greatly to be praised”, and if “his greatness is unsearchable” (Psalm 145:3), then no single service will ever be too bad or too good to follow-up one week later. It really isn’t about you! This is really, really good news.
God is receiving unceasing worship right now around the throne
“After this I looked, and behold, a great multitude that no one could number, from every nation, from all tribes and peoples and languages, standing before the throne and before the Lamb, clothed in white robes, with palm branches in their hands, and crying out with a loud voice, ‘Salvation belongs to our God who sits on the throne, and to the Lamb!’ And all the angels were standing around the throne and around the elders and the four living creatures, and they fell on their faces before the throne and worshiped God, saying, “Amen! Blessing and glory and wisdom and thanksgiving and honor and power and might be to our God forever and ever! Amen.’” (Revelation 7:9-12)
Never forget that when your Sunday service starts, you’re merely joining in. And when your service ends, the praises keep on going and going and going.
Stay humble
I will never forget the day I was taking a walk and lamenting all the “ways” I wasn’t “getting my way”, when God spoke loudly and clearly to me “Lucifer fell because he wanted my glory”. These words still ring in my ears.
When I demonstrate pride, I demonstrate a desire to receive the glory that God alone is due. God warns us clearly that he “opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble”. (James 4:6).
Earnestly, actively, intentionally, and brutally attack pride in your heart, especially when you get in your car to drive home after leading worship.
“Not to us, O Lord, not to us, but to your name give glory, for the sake of your steadfast love and your faithfulness!” (Psalm 115:1).
The song that follows the sermon, especially if it immediately follows it, is one that should be prayerfully and intentionally chosen. Following up a sermon with a completely unrelated song can distract people from what they just heard, using a song that might actually contradict the sermon can confuse people, and using a song that is just randomly chosen will come across as, well, just random.
When my family moved to Fairfax, Virginia in September of 2000, I was a depressed, confused, and lonely high school boy. My dad had taken a job as one of the associate pastors at Truro Church, and our family packed up from the panhandle of Florida and came with him. Sitting in between me and my dad in the front of our moving truck was my brand new Taylor 410-CE acoustic guitar, a gift from my youth group just the night before, on my last night leading worship for them.
These last couple of weeks have been really weird for people living in the Washington D.C. area.
A few years ago I came across a series of CDs called “Prayer Songs”. These are instrumental recordings of Jeff Nelson on piano, and are designed to be played during times of prayer.