How God Uses Criticism and Encouragement For Your Good (And His Glory Too)

1Several years ago, in the middle of a Sunday morning service (actually in the middle of a song I was leading), I felt my phone buzz in my pocket. When the song finished, I was taken aback by an angry text message, written by someone who happened to be in the service at that time, and was clearly not happy with the music. This person also somehow happened to have my phone number, and felt compelled to share their displeasure with me. To say that this caught me off guard would be an understatement.

After the service, I was walking down to my office, when someone stopped me to offer effusive, specific, and heartfelt thanks for the music that morning. This was more than a “thanks for the music this morning” word of appreciation. This was genuine (and meaningful!) encouragement from someone who had been deeply affected by the music and wanted to thank the person who had planned and led it. To say that this was good timing by this individual would be another huge understatement.

Unfortunately, the person who had sent the angry text message didn’t let their displeasure end there. The following week brought a meeting with this person, complete with personal attacks, and piercing words. I’m grateful for the friendship of Godly men and counselors who helped me process that meeting afterwards, so I could look at it objectively and with mercy in my heart toward the person who was so unhappy.

I’m also grateful that God, in his providence and because of what he knew was about to hit me in those meetings, had put an encourager in my path on my way to my office after the now-infamous service. The encourager had absolutely no way of knowing what had come through on my phone just 30-minutes earlier. And they had no way of knowing what was going to come later in the week. They didn’t know how strategically God was using them to preempt what could have been a more devastating experience of destructive criticism.

 

What is God up to when he allows us to be criticized – and sometimes criticized harshly?

He’s pointing us to his Son, who was  “…despised and rejected by men; a man of sorrows, and acquainted with grief; and as one from whom men hide their faces he was despised, and we esteemed him not.” (Isaiah 53:3 ESV). Because of this, God is actually making criticism lose its power, and maybe even its sting. We have nothing to complain about, and we have nothing to fear. Jesus knows what criticism feels like, and he literally didn’t deserve a single bit of it. So whether or we feel like we deserve the criticism we inevitably receive, God uses it to humble us and point us yet again to Jesus.

What is God up to when he sends encouragement our way?

Again, he’s pointing us to his Son, who was, and is, infinitely worthy of nothing else besides “…blessing and glory and wisdom and thanksgiving and honor and power and might”. (Revelation 7:12 ESV). Because of this, when we’re encouraged, we can receive it as a gift from God himself, and return and deflect the praise to him. God uses encouragement for a number of reasons in our lives, but ultimately and most importantly, it’s an opportunity for us to “turn (it) back to praise” Jesus, who is literally the only one who deserves it.

So, worship leaders, as you do what God’s called you to do, and receive the eventual and dreaded criticism (maybe even a text in the middle of a song!), and the eventual and appreciated encouragement, you can look to Jesus in either case, and find your identity and purpose in him.

 

A Conversation About Worship

This morning I had the joy of spending an hour talking and answering questions about worship leading/philosophy/songs/service planning, and many other things on the “Mid-Morning” program on WBCL, a Christian radio station based in Ft. Wayne, Indiana.

Lynne Ford had read my article “Responding to the Increasingly Short Shelf-Life of Worship Songs” and asked me to share some of my thoughts on the current landscape of worship music, and how worship leaders and people in the pews might approach worship from a biblical standpoint.

We covered a whole lot of ground, and you might enjoy listening in.

Kyrie Eleison

I wanted to share a simple song I wrote for the season of Lent (or anytime, really) that serves as a song of confession and prayer to God. The chord chart, lead sheet, and video are at the bottom of this post.

The chorus (with the women singing the echo) is:

Kyrie Eleison (Lord have mercy)
Christe Eleison (Christ have mercy)
Kyrie Eleison
Lord have mercy

And the verses, loosely based off of some of the verses from Psalm 51 are:

Have mercy on me
For I am a sinner
In need of a Savior
Have mercy on me, O God
According to Your steadfast love

Cleanse me from my sin
For I know my failures
And my sinful nature
Cleanse me from my sin, O God
And I will sing your endless praise

Jamie Brown. (c) 2016 Worthily Magnify Music. All rights reserved.

Here’s the chord chart.

Here’s the lead sheet.

And here’s the video:

 

Becoming Like What We Behold

FullSizeRender 5My daughters are starting to pick up more and more of my mannerisms.

This is terrifying.

Last week, my oldest (Megan) accidentally spilled an entire glass of water all over one of her sister’s dinner plates. I was in the living room, but could hear the tell-tale sound of a drink spilling everywhere. And from the kitchen, coming out of Emma’s mouth (the one whose dinner had just been ruined), I hear *my* voice exclaiming:

“Seriously, Megan?!?! Seriously?!?!”

That’s totally me. That’s what I say. “Seriously?” is (apparently) one of my favorite retorts.

We become like what we behold. 

When Catherine was pregnant with our youngest daughter, she reached the point in pregnancy when it was not so easy to stand up, or bend over, or pick things up, or really do much of anything without a good deal of effort. And so, like many very-pregnant women, she would let out a groan.

And we began to notice our little girls, then four and two-years-old, mimicking their mother’s groans. It was hilarious. And terrifying.

We pick up the mannerisms of people we study and admire. Children are constantly watching, listening, and beholding their parents, and so it’s natural that they begin to become like what (or whom) they’re beholding.

Paul writes in 2 Corinthians 3:18 that:

…we all, with unveiled face, beholding the glory of the Lord, are being transformed into the same image from one degree of glory to another. For this comes from the Lord who is the Spirit.

The Spirit opens our blinded eyes to see the “light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ” (2 Corinthians 4:6). He lifts the veil off our hearts, so that we can behold “the glory of Lord”. But why? So we can be transformed into his image.

Behold yourself? Become more like yourself. Behold the world? Become more like the word. Behold Jesus? Become more like Jesus.

When we behold Jesus, we’ll pick up more and more of his mannerisms.

Worship leaders: never tire or move beyond helping your congregation behold the glory of Jesus Christ, through the freedom-giving power of the Spirit. Jesus is not one of many things we should pointing to through our songs. He is the main thing. He is the central theme. And he is the image of God.

We become like what we behold. Behold Jesus!

Magnify the Lord WITH ME

1In Psalm 34:3 David writes: “Oh, magnify the Lord with me, and let us exalt his name together!” This verse has a lot to teach those who desire to lead congregational worship.

First, David says “magnify the Lord”. Worship is to be God-centered and God-magnifying.

About the word “magnify”, John Piper writes:

There are two kinds of magnifying: microscope magnifying and telescope magnifying. The one makes a small thing look bigger than it is. The other makes a big thing begin to look as big as it really is.

Second, he says “magnify the Lord with me”. David is modeling what it looks like to worship God. He is setting the tone. A worship leader actually… worships God. In the midst of directing musicians, leading portions of a service, thinking about transitions, remembering details, and all of the other duties of a worship leader, there is one duty that rises above them all. That is to simply worship God.

Third, he says “…and let us exalt his name together!” David’s worship is invitational. It invites others in. He isn’t worshipping God in such a way that no one else can participate. Quite the contrary. His heart is for the congregation to join in with him in exalting the name of the Lord.

This is a model of effective worship leadership that results in fostering congregational worship. We see from David that worship should be God-centered, that worship leaders should actually be worshipping, and that worship leaders should be inviting others to join them. At its core, effective worship leading is this simple.

The more complicated job of a worship leader is to convince everyone else on the platform with him or her that they are also worship leaders. When the members of a choir, and the band, and the pastors, and the technical team all see themselves as worship leaders, and demonstrate a heart like David’s, then a congregation finds itself increasingly drawn in to exalt the greatness of God.

May we approach our worship leading roles with this heart: to see our congregations magnifying and exalting God together. Help us, Holy Spirit!